Maybe I’m the only one who experiences this, but I highly doubt it. In fact, I know I’m not because Dr. John Gottman includes this phenomenon in his research in Chapter 9 of his book, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Last”. Dr. Gottman shares some examples of situations where people treat guests differently than they treat their spouse. Here’s one to think about:
To the guest: “Here. You forgot your umbrella.”
Reading this scenario actually made me feel a little better about myself. I don’t feel that I have been that rude to my spouse or children. But, then again, maybe I have and just haven’t realized I was doing it.
“A prime field for Satan’s attack is marriage: he seeks to foster selfishness—and thus contention—between husbands and wives…When two people join their lives together, there are bound to be little differences in tastes and preferences. If we will let him, Lucifer will magnify these little differences into major issues. The result is contention and resentment towards one another” (Thornock 1980).
You know what I say to this? GET THEE HENCE, SATAN. If the Savior can say it, so can I (Matthew 4:10). I don’t need to let the adversary make me forget my manners when it comes to those I love most.
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2018). The seven principles for making marriage work. London: Seven Dials an imprint of Orion Publishing Group Ltd.
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