You might be wondering, why is this a bad thing? Well, sometimes human nature is a bit chaotic and, for lack of a better word, evil. When we allow ourselves to be ruled by this chaotic, slothful, jealous, and prideful nature, it creates problems in many aspects of our lives...especially in our family lives.
THE WHY: Why does the "natural man" have such a hold on us?
Because we are all human and subject to the effects of the Fall of Adam and Eve. In his book, Drawing Heaven into your Marriage by Dr. H. Wallace Goddard, he provides a list of behaviors that we learn in childhood and carry with us into adulthood (because...Satan) that prevent us from being kind and charitable to our spouses and family members.
We have to make a conscious effort to overcome the “natural man” and it’s destructive nature, but there is hope...hope in and through the Atonement of our Savior Jesus Christ.
THE HOW: How do we use Christ's Atonement to overcome the NM?
I struggle to overcome my human nature sometimes, especially when it’s been “a day”, if you know what I mean. (A kitchen with dirty dishes piled everywhere...shoes, socks, homework , you name it, it’s out...wracking my brain to think of what to fix for dinner while trying to prep a seminary lesson AND finish my own homework...all the while trying to figure out how my YW calling is fitting into this equation, not to mention...oh ya, I have a husband who needs my attention as well.) It’s on days like these when my natural woman rushes to the surface, exhibiting everything from impatience to rudeness and everything in between. Why is it so easy to let her take over? Especially when I’ve been spending hours studying the gospel for various assignments and lessons.
I suppose it’s just the nature of the beast...part of our earthly experience. More importantly it gives us an opportunity to turn to the Savior and “take His yoke upon us” Matthew 11:29). That is the only way that we will be able to tame the beast and become new creatures in Christ.
"Therefore is any man [or woman] be in Christ, he [she] is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new" (2 Corinthians 5:17).
That is a powerful statement and concept to think about: When we are more godly, fewer things bother us." Wouldn't that be an amazing way to live? Not only in a marriage/family situation, but in school, work, social settings, etc. I, for one, want to sign up for living in a more godly manner so that the things that tend to drive me crazy, won't drive me crazy anymore. Too good to be true, you might say? Not so, because...
Goddard, H. W. (2009). Drawing heaven into your marriage: eternal doctrines that change relationships. Cedar Hills, UT: Joymap Publishing.
Natural Man. (n.d.). Retrieved from https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/gs/natural-man?lang=eng.
WHY ETERNAL FAMILIES?
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