“How are you feeling?” and
“I have a (friend, sister, aunt, cousin, etc) who was just diagnosed.
What can I do to help?”
I would like to focus this post on how I typically answer that second question. My first thought is always, “I have no idea.” Even though I endured the disease and a gamut of treatments, I am always at a loss for words when someone asks me what they can do to help someone in the throes of the disease. Cancer is so completely different from one person to the next. It is hard to have a standard answer for a magic fix-all regimen.
I have put a lot of thought into this dilemma because for the rest of my life, I will probably have people come to me in their hour of need. They desperately want to help their loved one face the battle and need to hear words of advice from one who has walked the difficult path.
There is only one thing that will always work and will never fail.
The Beatles had it right.
All You Need is Love.
I was fortunate enough to be surrounded in a bubble of love throughout my entire journey. I would not have made it through to be the person I am today without it. The great thing about love is that there are so many ways to express it.
This list also does not just apply to someone who is battling cancer.
Everyone needs love.
Even those people who you think are so strong that they can endure anything that comes their way.
We all just need love.
(This post was originally posted on Survivorship Wellness on 2/9/2015)