I love this holiday.
The food, the family, the opportunity to give thanks for our bounteous blessings.
I am grateful for my life, my family, my Savior, and my friends. Everything else is just stuff, which I am grateful for as well. But if I lost all of that "stuff" tomorrow, it wouldn't matter. It's the love in our lives that truly matters and no matter what circumstance you find yourself in, you ALWAYS have the love of our Heavenly Father and His Son, Jesus Christ.
I close this post with the words of one of my favorite American presidents, Abraham Lincoln.
Many thanks to my friend, Angela, for posting this quote on Facebook this morning. I am grateful to have it brought to my attention.
I hope that this Thanksgiving finds you happy in whatever circumstance you are in.
Remember, we have that choice. The choice to be happy. The choice to be grateful.
Lately I have found myself wondering if people have forgotten one of the most basic, simple rules of time.
"If you can't say something nice, don't say it at all."
I can't tell you how many times I read a post where the author has to say something like, "Please feel free to leave respectful, constructive comments." This is sad. It is sad that a person cannot share his/her opinion on his/her personal website or blog without feeling like they are going to be attacked for his/her beliefs.
Listen...I realize that when you put something out there on the internet, you are opening yourself up to criticism. That is the world we live in. With the click of a button, your words are instantly available to millions of people. Unfortunately some of those millions of people out there have nothing better to do with their time then read articles or posts and then feel the need to bash the author with hateful, cruel words.
"The haters gonna hate" after all, right?
Does it really need to be this way? Do we really have to cringe every time we hit the "publish" button because we are just waiting for the first angry words to come barreling in?
I don't think it has to be this way, but sadly, it will continue to be this way. It will continue to be this way because selfishness and pride run rampant in the world today. As long as people are thinking only of themselves, and are unwilling to work together with people who believe differently then them, the hateful words will continue to flow.
My intent for this post is to just make people stop and think before they lash out in anger, their fingers flying over the keyboard as they spew hateful words.
You don't have to write mean and hateful things to get your point of view across. You can disagree with someone in a respectful way. The words you write are not just words on an empty page. Those words are read by a lot of people. People who have feelings. People who, just like you, feel passionate about their beliefs. Never, ever write a comment in the "heat of the moment." Take a step back, breathe in and out, do some jumping jacks. Release the tension, and dare I say....maybe say a little prayer before you respond? Chances are, you will find that the response that you share will be kinder, more constructive and respectful.
We do not have to agree with each other. Everyone of us is different. We have different backgrounds, different beliefs, different personalities. All those differences make it difficult to get along sometimes, but we can do it, people!! We can do it. Share the love. Say something nice. Be the bigger person.
Today is a very exciting day.
Someone was actually crazy enough to want me to write as a guest blogger. Thanks Debbie, for trusting me with this task! I hope this will be the beginning of something really beautiful.
Here are the links to my introduction and blog post over at Survivorship Wellness. Enjoy!
I know what some of you are probably thinking,
"Oh man! Is she going to start going on again about her church? Does she ever stop talking about that?"
My answers to those questions...Yes, I am going to say something about the gospel of Jesus Christ and no, I will never stop talking about it. Everything that I am is because of my Savior. I would never want to live life without His presence in it.
I want to share with you some words from a living apostle of our Savior, Jesus Christ. When Christ walked upon the earth, He had apostles with Him. I testify to you that He also has apostles who live among us today. One of those apostles is Elder David A. Bednar. He gave a talk in the last General Conference of our church that really stood out to me. He directed his words to individuals who are not members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I love the question that he started with.
"Why are Latter-day Saints so eager to tell me about what they believe and to invite me to learn about their church?"
Then he proceeded to share some wonderful reasons why we "Mormons" love to talk about The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
(Click here to read/listen to/watch the talk in its entirety.
*"Devoted disciples of Jesus Christ always have been and always will be valiant missionaries."
In Matthew 28:19-20 it says, "Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost: Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you alway, even unto the end of the world. Amen" Words from the Savior himself. It's our job as disciples of Christ to teach others about Him.
*"When we invite you to attend church with us or to learn with the full-time missionaries, we are not trying to sell you a product....we are not seeking simply to increase the numerical size of the Church."
I do not get some sort of award or bonus if I share the gospel with someone. I am not driven to share the gospel of Christ for any other reason than, I love Him. I know what He has done for me in my life, and I want others to have that same peace and happiness for themselves.
*"...we are not attempting to coerce you to believe as we do. We are inviting you to hear the restored truths of the gospel of Jesus Christ so you can study, ponder, pray, and come to know for yourself if the things we are sharing with you are true."
I like to say that when I share the gospel, I am not trying to take anything away from the faith that you already have. I am only giving you something that will add to it.
He closed the talk with his testimony; his apostolic witness of the Savior.
"As one of the Lord's Apostles, and with all of the energy of my soul, I bear witness of his divinity and reality. And I invite you to 'come and see'..."
And now I leave you with mine. I also invite you to "come and see". I invite you to read the Book of Mormon with an open heart and mind. I invite you to ask God if the Book of Mormon is true; if Jesus Christ is really your Savior. Bring your faith, your traditions, your life experiences and add to them. The Lord always needs people to help Him and be His hands here on earth.
I hope you have noticed my beautiful new header. For this Thankful Thursday post, I would love to tell you the story behind it.
As I have been trying to figure out how to make this website appealing for people to visit, I knew I wanted a super cool header and logo. I tried playing around with a few things and checked around on Etsy, but I just could not settle on something that I loved. I have a friend, Arlene, who is an amazing graphic designer. She has done a number of posters and advertisements for things at the elementary school my kids went to. I have loved everything that I have seen her do.
This logo is no exception.
It is perfect.
I sent her an email a week or so ago asking her if she would be willing and/or able to take on this task for me. I could not stop thinking about asking for her help. You know what that means? It means it was meant to be. I told her a little bit about the website and my vision for it. She was so kind to work on this without charging me a penny. (Although she may find a special little gift on her doorstep one of these days.) I had a vision in my head of a radiant sun to represent my "One Day at a Time" theme. I knew I also wanted to incorporate the cancer ribbon somewhere, as well as my four kiddos.
When I opened her email a few days later and saw what she had come up with, my eyes filled with tears. It was so perfectly perfect. Better than anything I ever imagined. She said that she chose to do 4 stars to represent my kiddos, which I loved. I am also in love with the way the cancer ribbon is incorporated right into the sun's rays.
It makes me smile and I am so grateful for wonderful friends who are so kind.
I am finding it a little difficult to make the transition from the blog that has served me well for so many years. I am still going to utilize that blog as a journal for my family, but I have so many posts there that mean so much to me. Not only was I able to post about things that have happened in my family's lives, but I have been able to share many things that are near and dear to my heart, including my testimony.
I love my testimony.
I treasure it as one of my most prized possessions.
I have worked hard for my testimony and continue to work hard as it blossoms and grows.
Gaining a testimony is not an easy task, overall. There are some aspects of the gospel that are easy to accept and some that are not. What comes easy for one person is a struggle for someone else. That is the real beauty of the gospel of Jesus Christ. There is truly a place for everyone who is willing to "endure to the end."
Being a disciple of Christ is not easy, nor was it ever meant to be. This life is a time for us to work, to learn, and to serve. It is also a time for us to experience joy and sorrow. They come hand in hand. You cannot have one without the other. We are meant to have times of joy so that we can remember them and reflect upon them during our times of sorrow.
I am excited to be able to share my testimony with you in many forms. One of the things that I am hoping will come from my book is the opportunity to be a motivational speaker. I have always loved attending conferences and meetings where the speaker shares his/her story and ideas that have helped him/her on the path of life. As those of you who know me know, I like to talk. I also love to help people and I hope that I will be able to combine those two loves and be an instrument in God's hand. I don't know what this path will bring. I will be happy wherever it takes me and look forward to whatever is in store.
Thank you for sharing this journey with me and for being so supportive. I have received many kind and encouraging comments, and I would just like to express my gratitude for your love and support.
I realize that I am not the only one who has chosen Thursday as a day to write a post on gratitude. It is such a perfect alliteration though. (Wow, that is a big word. I wish I could say that I knew it. I had to turn to the Love of my Life for help with that....)
I started my Thankful Thursday posts on my previous blog. You can click here if you would like to read any of those past posts.
I would like to continue that tradition here and so today, I would like to say that I am thankful for....
You can bet there will be a rematch next year.
I am not sure why I chose this particular picture for this post. Let's just say, it's not my best angle.
I guess after posting pictures of being bald, having no eyelashes, and puffy steroid cheeks, I figure this is a step up.
Plus, I needed to use it to paint a picture--a picture of me getting the ball rolling.
That is exactly what I am trying to do with this website and my big announcement.
The website is coming along. It's crawling at a snail's pace, but it's coming along.
I'm really okay with the snail's pace. My family is my number one priority and their needs will always come first. The girls' schooling is taking a bigger toll on me then I planned on, but I think I have found my happy place once again.
Now that the ball is rolling, maybe it's time for me to share my exciting news. :)
For a little over a year now, I have been toiling away on a very special project.
It is something that is near and dear to my heart.
It took a lot out of me.
It contributed to many, many sleepless nights,
hours staring at the computer screen,
times of neglecting my family a tiny bit (sorry guys),
and made my PTSD flare up A LOT.
It was also a wonderful time spent reflecting on the many miracles that I have witnessed in my life over the past three years.
This project that has consumed my every thought is my first novel.
Written by yours truly.
I am calling myself an "accidental author".
I never set out to be a writer. I wouldn't say that I ever had a real passion for it. It sort of just happened.
Things that I have written have struck a chord with this person and that person.
In the course of just trying to document how I felt and what was happening in my life, I somehow stumbled upon a skill that I didn't even know I possessed.
I don't know what will become of this little book of mine.
As we speak, it is sitting in the database of a publishing company, waiting to be looked at.
If that doesn't pan out there are more publishing companies- too many to count.
The beautiful thing about technology is that I always have a self-publishing option as well.
Maybe it will just be read by my posterity.
Only time will tell.
I do know this.
It was meant to be written.
Many of those miracles that I talked about, happened when writing this book.
I don't know what it's destiny will be.
I only know that it is here, and it makes me happy to say that.
I am loving my second chance at life.
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