It's no secret that some people think that Mormons are strange. What with the secretive nature of the temple, no drinking, no sexual relations outside of the bonds of marriage, and a myriad of other things- I get it.
Here is what I don't get.
If you see something on a reality show, read something on a website or in a book, or hear a news report on something that you don't understand about this religion, why not follow up and see if what you learned is actually true?
If you are reading this post, chances are, you know me. You have some way to communicate with me. So why not ask me if the things that you have heard are true? I promise that I will not drag you to a church service, kicking and screaming. I will not force you to listen to the missionaries. I will not even ask you to believe as I do.
All I am asking for, is that you not form an opinion based on garbage. I ask that you not say negative things about the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints unless you have truly done the leg work and researched the area of belief that you might disagree with. Then, if you still disagree with it- fire away. That is your prerogative and your right.
Chances are, you might just find out that the things that you heard are not true, or that what you heard has a small portion of truth with a lot of ignorance mixed in with it.
In the spirit of clearing up some misconceptions, here are a few of my little dirty secrets that might interest you....
1- I like to drink Coke and Dr. Pepper on occasion....with caffeine. (gasp!) Contrary to popular belief, there is no church doctrine that prohibits drinking these drinks.
2- I have shared on numerous occasions on my previous blog, some of the things that I do when I attend the temple. There are things that I won't share. Not because I am trying to be deceitful or secretive, but because they are sacred. Many religions have religious ceremonies that are not made public because of their sacred nature.
3- I wrote about my garments (AKA my "magic underwear") on my previous blog, so I won't go into a lot of detail here other than to say, I wear the garments because of covenants that I made with God, in the temple. They are not magic. They do not give me super powers. They are just my underwear. (You can read that blog post here.)
4- I believe in the Bible and I read it frequently. I use it in my gospel study, along with my Book of Mormon, which is another testament of Jesus Christ.
5- Sometimes I swear.
6- We do not practice polygamy. I am Mark's only wife and for that, he is very thankful.
7- I choose to be a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints because it offers me the gospel of Jesus Christ in its fullness. It makes me happy. It has given me the knowledge that I am a daughter of God and that He knows me and loves me. I lived with Him before I came to this earth, with my family and friends, and I will return to live with Him when my time on this earth is through.
Here is my challenge to you. The next time you hear something about Mormons that leaves you scratching your head, or that maybe makes your blood pressure rise because you don't agree with it- please send me an email or Facebook message or something! I would be thrilled to be able to talk with you about what I believe. Obviously, I do not speak for the church and it is a definite possibility that I may not be able to answer your questions. However, I could help you find the answers that you seek.
A big thank you to my cousin, Leslie. It is because of a little conversation that I had with her on Facebook that got my wheels turning for this post. I hope that my ramblings have made sense and I hope that you will remember my little challenge when you run across those so called "reality" shows that don't offer much reality.
I have had a few people ask me about the progress of my book. I have both good and bad news.
Let's start with the bad news and get it out of the way.
Publishing company number one said thanks, but no thanks.
I have to say, I really was not surprised when I received that email. I knew that the odds of having it picked up in the first go-around were very, very slim. Still, it stung a little and I spent some time in the land of hopelessness. I went back and forth a little bit. Is this something I really want/need to put precious time and effort into? Am I just kidding myself in thinking that someone will actually want to publish it? What makes me different than any other survivor out there who has penned their thoughts about their journey with the disease?
I also had the thought that maybe everyone who has read the book was just being nice when they said that it was a good book. I know that there are many things that need to be fixed and I am now in the process of yet another revision. It hasn't been the first and it certainly won't be the last. But just maybe it's not something that a lot of people would want to take the time to read.
I didn't stay in that thought process for long, however. I talked with Mark and my mom about it, and now I am ready to start the next round. I am going through the book, chapter by chapter and really getting down to the nitty gritty. Is it too wordy? Does this experience really pertain to the rest of the book? Lots and lots of details to look at. It's going to take some time to fit it into my busy schedule, but I am not ready to give up on it yet.
So I guess the good news is, it is not over yet. The book is still there, it just needs a little refining. After this next revision, I will send it off to another company and another and another until I find the right fit.
I have to thank my friend, Jessica, for sending me a quote a little while back that helped me to find my way out of the land of hopelessness and gave me the will to forge ahead.
It is important that I share my story. It's just figuring out the best way to share it with the people who need to hear it that is a challenge. It is a challenge I am willing to accept and someday, complete.
Here is a link for my latest guest post over at Survivorship Wellness.com
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